The mind is a powerful tool. Recently a co-worker informed me, if you draw a circle around an ant, it will remain within the confines of the circle. Immediately it caused me to think about human beings and how we allow others to dictate how far we exceed in life. Outside influences determine your beauty, worth and what you think you can accomplish. Let’s start thinking outside of the circle, moving beyond boundaries set forth by society. True happiness is gained by stepping outside of your comfort zone, do it even if you’re afraid. Test it, see how far you soar.
Just when you think you have life all figured out, life deals you a curveball. What you never expected to happen does. Being wise doesn’t always shield you from life’s twists and turns. When you’re younger there are issues you deal with, one vows to never be caught in a particular predicament again. Wrong, you will go through it again, just in a different manner. We must all go through growing pains or we would never mature mentally or emotionally. Even though it’s a fact of life these events takes you by surprise when they happen.
A very valuable lesson was learned on my part. You never really know somebody, even if you have evaluated and took your time to get to know them. It’s still a crushing blow when you realize there’re not who you believed them to be. Doesn’t make you less of a person, it just mean they fooled you. I learned over the Thanksgiving weekend that just because you’re wise doesn’t mean you know everything. Being wise doesn't stop you from being hurt or letdown it just makes the recovery period a little shorter.
I just read an article about Kaye West really wanting to run for president. After I got through laughing, I felt well, why not. If Donald Trump can run for president why can't Kanye. I even left a comment suggesting that perhaps Donald and Kanye should be running mates. As a matter of fact why not form an entire new party. The Sociopathic Party. Hey, that's fitting. Being a visionary I even took it a step further, after all they are also businessmen. If their bid for presidency fails they can always go on tour as the biggest comedy act EVER.
Sociopathic Party, members two. That's all they need. They will have it all covered. One has the knowledge to handle the deficit, while the other is just plain entertaining.
While on a social site reading the feed line I came across a question being asked by this gentleman, the question read “What do you bright to the table?” There was a typo normally I would have just supplemented the correct word and read on. I wasn’t going to say anything but for some reason this particular evening I was in a mood. It irked my nerves the question was even being asked. Even more infuriating was the fact that he hadn’t bothered to fix the typo. This act was more than my nerves could tolerate.
All of the ridiculous phrases made by men these days came to mind. Like a brewing storm my irritation level began to grow. My fingers began to type “I brought a dictionary” was my response. Of course I added he should not be concerned with what I was BRINGING to the table, but more concerned with what he had to offer. There was no response. At this point all of the statements I had heard men make in the past began to cloud my mind, along with how I would like to respond.
“WHAT DO YOU BRING TO THE TABLE?” Whatever you wanted at the table you should have already possessed, or apparently you didn’t desire it that bad. If a man is asking such a question he is looking for somebody to split bills with aka a broke man. I am not Beyoncé I have no plans on upgrading anybody.
“I DON’T CHASE WOMEN” of course you don’t you probably chase men, or are too damn lazy to chase anything including a job. You would have to actually chase a woman to get to know her, perhaps you could have figured out what she brought to the table. Instead you are now trying to figure out what the next woman brings while you explain to her why your relationship is “COMPLICATED”.
Your relationship is not complicated you are merely too lazy to get a second job so you don’t have to rely upon her income. You would rather stay in a loveless relationship and cheat. Oh my favorite is “NO DRAMA”. Why would you think there would be drama? Could it be that you are distant, lack communication skills or a cheater? Hmmm, if drama ensued every relationship prior to him meeting the next woman, I am going to make an educated guess on this equation, the drama queen is him.
Last but not least is the old sob story teller/punk, this is a speech not just a statement “I LOVED THIS WOMAN, I TREATED HER LIKE A QUEEN, I BOUGHT HER BLAH, BLAH, BLAH. ALL I EXPECTED HER TO DO WAS BLAH, BLAH. SHE BETRAYED ME BY BEING ON SITES TALKING TO OTHER MEN”. When did talking to men become cheating? Sounds like a case of low self-esteem. How do you expect a woman to love/respect/care for you when you don't love/respect/care for yourself? Yes, forgive me lord for I was petty.
Praying, meditation, yoga, exercise, eating right, fasting anything used to put you in a relaxed state of mind. Believing in a higher power, positive energy whatever you need to balance your sense of well-being should be considered ok. After all, we are not here to be in constant turmoil or pain. Magic, numerology, astrology we have all wondered about these things.
Some are afraid to acknowledge or show interest in something that is outside of the normal scope of reality. For some religion has made them feel you shouldn’t dabble in astrology, magic, or numerology. One should never judge nor should you speak on something you have no knowledge of.
You cannot possibly make a decision based upon just one reality. You have to factor in all aspects to make an accurate decision. Some will not agree but, to me religion is no different. Christians speak of Satan yet not many have taken the time to read the Satanic Bible.
Are they afraid reading the book will somehow taint them and they’ll become evil? All of their prayer and do they not believe that the lord will protect them as they find out what the enemy is up to. Many have opinions on what is good or bad, they will try to entice you to follow them.
We were given brains and freedom of choice. When you consider all the factors many things become clear. Once you have collected all the information, you become intelligent enough to arrive at the right conclusion. Not everybody is born to be a leader. Me, I have a hard time following somebody that has not taken the time to become knowledgeable about everything before leading me into battle.
Read this beautiful fairy tale last week. A college-educated woman, earning a good living married a man with no job. Not sure if he was looking for a job or was recently laid off, wasn’t really concerned with how he became unemployed. The concern was not in his lack of employment. She earned a good living and she was comfortable with him not working so that was her business. What was troubling was her proceeding to have children with this man with no job.
The author pointed out the woman still fulfilled her wifely duties, as well as took care of her children. Ok, now I am confused, wifely duties? What exactly does that mean? If she had wifely duties, what were his husbandly duties?
She continue to provide for them while he stayed at home, not even working part time. All of the income she earned was given to him to take care of the household expense. Years later he is offered a job making a lot of money. He purchased a house, the new car he bought was given to her, while he continued to ride the bus. Confusion again, if he is making good money why not buy two cars? He does eventually buy a second care when first one is paid off, he gave the new car to her and took the old one. The act of giving her the first car than newer one is to show how much he loved and cared for her. As the story ends she is cleaning up the room and happen to come across some financial documents.
Not sure why she didn’t already know where these documents were kept to begin with. What she found was a surprise to her, everything was put in her name. Hmmm, really why the surprise? The idea was he loved her so much he put everything in her name.
Perhaps, I am just old school to believe that a real man would be willing to put his pride to the side and do any job, even if he was over qualified for it. A man that loved a woman wouldn’t expect her to be a super woman and do his job in addition to the traditional role of wife and mother.
If he cared so much why not work a fast food job, paper route, whatever to make ends meet. Never would she have been encouraged to have kids when she was the only person working. Wifely duties, what happened to husbandly duties like taking care of your woman and children? This was not a story of love and respect, in my day we called that pimping. Was just wondering when pimping became a testament of true love and dedication?
My belief is God provides answers to all of life’s questions through your soul. We are all here to learn, earth is the school, and the people you encounter are your classmates. For whatever reason you have chosen to incarnate together, and learn from each other what you need to advance as a soul. Everything is pre-written right down to every individual you spend time with. My spirituality constantly keeps me on the search for ways to be happy. Currently this search has led to the study of how to let go of negative energy. This has not been an easy task, but I am determined to follow the steps instructed to reach my goal. Step one was to become intimate with myself. I laughed until the meaning of this was fully understood.
Intimacy with of oneself requires that the heart be aligned with the soul. I was not aware that the soul and the heart were not the same. You have to dispel the theory any outside influence is responsible for your moods. You and only you are responsible for your emotions. Learning the points were energy entered and released from your body was also advised. These exercises are truly working. I feel more relaxed and balanced. Wished more people would take the time to read books like this.
When a book is about making money, getting the most attractive mate, losing weight or how to fix a broken relationship people are quick to purchase them. We are captivated by books that enhance our outer life. The authors become rich, books are sold out, and you are even willing to stand in line waiting for a copy. A book that teaches you about your emotional well-being and mental balance is not as exciting, we are not so quick pay attention.
This book has been helpful and wasn’t expensive, there appears to be a surplus of copies because it is being sold for .42 cents on Amazon. The belief is humans are evolving if you are not willing to take part in the change you will be left behind. The new way involves getting in touch with your emotions, treating others with kindness, consideration and respect. If we practice these simple rules life would be better for all.
Call mom I hear the phone say OK calling Nathan. Who is Nathan? Why are you calling Nathan? Stop, stop you stupid phone, oh my god he is answering. There is a male voice on the other end, I stutter, not sure what to say to ole Nathan. I hadn’t spoken to him in months. He was someone that I met and things didn’t work out. I didn’t know the number was still in my contacts. For some reason this stupid smart phone decided that it would be a good idea to phone him. One thing was certain that name didn’t sound anything like mom. The Gods must be angry with me; there I sat at the traffic light looking like a crazy woman with my face all screwed up. I can’t just hang up, what if he has caller ID he will know it’s me. Try explaining to a person you really didn’t want to talk to that the phone dialed the number. After all I am a grown woman; I should know how to use a smart phone correctly. Sorry Nate my phone called you, that just sound like I am slightly demented. I am because this phone is driving me nuts!
One day it understands me, the next day it’s as if smart phone shift is over and stupid phone shift begins. It is often as if we are speaking two different languages, every thing that is asked to be looked up or done is totally misunderstood. Let’s not forget about auto correct, my sister received a text message from me that said “Morning, hoe you doing?” Lol, still laughing at that one, instead of her telling me about the typo she just responded “Doing good sis, hope your morning is going well too.” To be honest I was never cell phone savvy to begin with.
My cell phone skills were complete novice, I was still in the flip phone era up until 2015. It was comfortable with the flip phone, only thing required was to press the button to answer and make calls. There was no repeating who you wanted to call. True, always thought texting was stupid and a waste of energy, why not to just call. Really didn’t start texting until I met a gentleman from another state. The flip phone didn’t have long distance service. Texting became our way of communicating on a daily basis. Wow, finally figured out why texting was so popular. The flip phone and I were together for years before I traded up. Was it really trading up? I am beginning to wonder. Can’t seem to get this phone to do anything, for such a smart phone it sure acts really stupid at times.
The sun is shining the birds are chirping. The maid has just woke me up with breakfast my favorite sausage and eggs. My stylist is rushing me to hurry up so he can hook my hair up. The butler is holding out my jeans that I'll be wearing today. Doorbell's ringing there is a Leprechaun holding out a pot of gold just for me. There is a unicorn standing under a tree that is sprouting $100 bills. Laughing out loud it's Friday in Danni land. Happy Friday to me.